The price of beauty…Is it worth it?

Ladies is it worth it??? All the shit we go through just to be pretty? We wax this, pluck that, shave here,  poke there….I just sat in a hair salon yesterday for 4 hours to get my hair done. Like wtf!!!!! Not a one time thing. We do this every day, week, month….But why? Do we not think were pretty? Does society tell us were not pretty enough? PERSONALLY, I think I’m fabulous but I can’t step out the house unless my hair is done. Vain much?! I don’t think it’s my fault tho. Society, social media, MY MAMA, has all brainwashed me into thinking regular isn’t good enough. God forbid I step out without my lip gloss poppin I’m liable to have a damn meme on Instagram made about me and laughed at for weeks. The pressure is women have on is to be near perfect is insane and actually not fair. I gotta check all social media before I put a outfit together or else ima b called a hoe. And if I respond back, YA MAMA A HOE, I’m wrong? Can’t wear my uggs, my comfy leggings, my VS sweats, nothing. And WEAVE?????? Fuggetaboutit!!! I’m called everything under the sun cuz of weave. So I, like many women, keep up with society’s standards of what’s ok. And that’s bullshit!!!!!!  But how do I reprogram myself? How do women get from up under the microscope of society? *shrugs*. Be pretty ladies, be fabulous girls. But also, FUCK THE WORLD!!!! Best advice I can give. *whispers* but keep that hair done tho lol. -MSH


My HAIR!!!! Who doesn’t love their own hair….

So lets start with a little background on MY hair. Honestly I hate my hair lol. Its very thin and stringy and doesn’t hold curls well. I do not get relaxers but I am a black woman. I get that question all the time!!!! I’m usually a ponytail or doobie kind of girl with my natural hair. But for the most part I do wear weaves. It’s a great protective style, easy to manage and give me the fullness and life that I don’t get with my natural hair.

So currently I am wearing 16/18/20(inches) of Brazilian Body Wave hair from Brazilian is a little thick for my hair and I usually wear Malaysian but nothing holds a curl like Brazilian hair. Later on, I’m going to do a really good blog of the origin of REAL virgin hair. You will be surprised to know there aren’t many REAL origins. But I digress…….As a base on my hair before I get an install(sewn in weave), I use Jamaican Black Castor Oil. It’s great to keep your edges from breaking off. I also use Simplicity Oil which helps keep the hair under my weave. Its food for your hair. It adds moisture and shine. Before my install, I ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS co-wash my hair. Co Wash means to wash your hair with conditioner. All hair needs MOISTURE or it won’t survive. So I use Proclaim Hydrating Mask and Silicon Mix. I condition the hair with cool water and place in the microwave for 2 minutes with the conditioner in it. YES, the microwave. It simulates a deep condition and forces moisture into the strands. Once the microwave is complete, I rinse one more time in cool water. In order to lock the moisture into the hair, you need to seal with a light oil. Here is where I use the Simplicity Oil again. Let your hair air dry. You want to stay away from heat as much as possible if you can. This process adds moisture and repairs any split ends if your hair has any. Next, you’re going to want to purchase a weft sealant. has one or you can go to your local arts and crafts store and purchase FRAY CHECK. This is used to help stop any shedding. You run this product along the front and the back of the actual track to prevent excess shedding of the hair. Now you’re ready for a professional install……….. -MSH

Introduction Post

Hi Everybody,

I just wanted to do a quick introduction. My name is Melissa H. You can call me Melissa, Missy, Miss, I’m called a little bit of everything. I am a mother of 2, a boy and a girl, and I work in corporate America. I am not a licensed hairstylist nor a hair professional in any  form or fashion. All I am is a woman with a passion for hair. From natural hair, to weaves and wigs, children’s hair, everything. This blog is solely intended to give tips and tricks from either my own personal experience or from my close acquaintances experiences. I’m always willing to hear other peoples opinions and tips. The only rule I have is to be respectful. For some people, their hair is a touchy subject. Especially for black women, hair is the foundation of some peoples self esteem. I believe all women from all walks of life are beautiful and I want to help people find what works for them. So please, share, chat, ask as many questions as you would like. If I don’t have an answer, I will tell you I don’t know but I will be sure to find the answer for you. From family to close friends, I’m surrounded by professional hair stylists so an answer is always within reach. I currently do not have any assistants but that can change at any time. So when I blog, I will always end with my initials. Have fun and enjoy!!!!! -MSH